There is a thread on the Young Widow Bulletin Board about how tough it is hearing people complain about normal stuff: how difficult it is to keep up with housework, yards, life in general. We want to say to them you think it's hard for you?? Try it all with your heart perpetually in your throat, on the edge of tears all the time.

The general consensus, I believe though, is that it is especially hard when people complain about their spouse being inattentive of distant. You want inattentive and distant? Try "dead" on some time.

The worst is people that complain when their spouse has to travel for a couple weeks and ask, "how will I get along that long without him/her." Saying that to me might get you a sock in the kisser.