From "Young Widows Guide to Grieving"

I found this post on the blog of a fellow widow, and thought it very perceptive. An excerpt:

There was a post on the Young Widow's Bulletin Board the other day, where the author referred to all the other people as "normals". All those who continue on in their daily lives, blissfully unaware of how quickly and easily the things that matter can be ripped away from you. It's like a twisted version of the Sixth Sense: "I see normal people...". Grief and loss change so much, so fast - both in our outer lives and within ourselves - that you can't help but view everyone else as living in some rarified world of ignorance. So when they stare at you like that, like there's something wrong with you that they wish they could fix, it can't help but make you feel like an outsider. I imagine that's why veterans rarely care to talk about the horrors of war to anyone except other veterans: you can't possibly understand unless you've been there.

That's pretty sharp stuff. Even more impressive that the author is all of 25 years. At her age, I was still looking for cheap pitchers of beer. She is blogging profound. Keep it up Tamsen, you are inspiring!