The widow's world is so hard. Over the past months, I have become fast friends with a widow from Arizona. She is a lovely woman from the Netherlands, raising three girls alone in America after the death of her husband. Her story is compelling, and I am drawn to her.

Today, she took her best friend and fellow Dutch expatriot Kitty to the emergency room. My heart breaks for Tanja, and I pray for Kitty's health. They take care of each other's children, and they need each other. I would love to be there to help, but I really can't right now. I hope someday the three of us can toast Kitty's recovery.